Goals and How to Achieve Them
Happy New Year! A new year and new challenges! This is often a moment of time when many people sit down to reflect over the past year, the future and try to set new goals. Personally I tend to do this at the end of every summer, however this year I wanted to try setting a few goals from the start of the year, which will last until the end of it.
As I like to start the posts – let’s grab a cup of cocoa (or coffee/tea) and hopefully view a wonderful winter wonderland, as we go through this article together. I will share some ideas and thoughts on how to achieve the goals that we now are setting for the year to come.
In general, these are less stressful than short-term goals. Obviously because we know if we miss doing this or that a particular day, we will probably get another opportunity along the day. In short-term it may be it. No more chance. And that knowledge can be stressful, also resulting in us performing less than we otherwise would have.
A mindset to develop, and also a suggestion of mine, is to think ”A little each day”. Having a bit of discipline in performing perhaps 10 minutes each day, rather than finishing the whole task in a week. I think achieving those 10 minutes will boost our confidence kind of as much as if we wrapped up the to-do in a short time. Reaching our goals, growing towards them step by step boosts our confidence. It makes us more confident in taking on a new goal afterwards as we will have more confidence in achieving that goal too.
A mindset I go by and recommend all of us to have, is – ”What do I wish tomorrow that I did today?”. This can help in situations where we stand between choosing going to the gym or not. What do we wish for tomorrow’s outcome? Will we be happy to have dodged the gym and saved up some energy for tomorrow? Or do we need to pump ourselves with energy for the gym? Do we need to get into a peaceful mood or a prepped one?
Another example can also be when it comes to those 10 minutes. When we look back to today, tomorrow – do we wish we did something to work on our goals during 10 minutes or not? Suddenly 10 minutes may not seem like such a big deal and we are able to sit down to write that assignment, walk that powerwalk or take that phonemail after all. And again, afterwards we may feel pride and successful in achieving our goals. Even if we are far from crossing the line of our long-term goal, we know that we are on our way to do it. That is why I recommend us doing 10 minutes each day, rather than 0 to 20 every second day. Doing 10 minutes each day reminds us daily of how we grow towards what we want to succeed at.
2. Motivate Us
Some people point out the fact that we cannot be motivated 100% of the time. I suppose I agree. Some may be able to, but I dare to guess the majority may not. So, what do we do? – We realize the difference when we instead swift the word to discipline. Having discipline, is to do something when we do not want to. Some days when we just really do not want to do something and yet do it, that is when we grow on our discipline mind.
To make it slightly easier, we can ask ourselves questions like: ”How does this help us? How do we grow to a better person by doing this/achieving this goal?”. Find positive reasons. If we find the reasons as to why the goal and process are two important things for us, it will be somewhat easier to energize us and see the reason why we do this. It is important though to have a true positive reason. This way we will continuously remind ourselves as to why this goal is important and we will want to achieve the sensation of success.
3. The Beauty of Habits
I wanted to emphasize us making an action plan. How do we achieve these goals? What is required and what shall we put an extra effort with? A notable famous quote, is the saying of ”If we want a different outcome, we must change something. Only a fool will do the same thing twice and expect a different result.” Is this not highly relatable to aim for completing goals correctly? If we do not naturally in our daily life (for example) manage to save a certain amount of money which we aim to do this particular year. Obviously something must change for us to do this? Right?
We start with our habits to begin with. If we have three goals for 2019, it can be a handful for us to start off trying to manage all three of them. I suggest us to begin with one of them and completing one each. Also, just reading the letters of our goals may stress us somewhat. We may not even know where to start, and that can be overwhelming. Instead we can see the routines/habits we must create to let some space into our lives for these causes. It is said to take about 21 days for each habit to be.
For example, if we want to feel more focused, read more and save X amount of money, we must divide these goals into habits. Perhaps that extra grocery shopping can be cut into a more planned one? We can look for coupons or something else that can lessen the price and amount of money we spend on food? Maybe have a stricter budget when it comes to shopping? Cutting the credit card and only go by debit? Instead of saving at the end of every month, let’s start every month with saving X amount of money.
And if we want to be more focused… what can we do? What is required? A different type of intake of food, better sleep and better activities? Alright, what does this mean? Gym, comfier bed, stricter when going to bed, eating last meal by 7 pm and prepare a meal for the after without? Then we must look at out schedule and try to map it out. How can we make a day go by and do all of this? And if we want to read more, maybe we can fit this into the last moments of every day, as a result calming us down and making us fall asleep. Further result in increasing our sleep quality? And we will feel energized to exercise in the morning? Start with one habit and master it fully before taking on another one. Achieving goals most of the time do mean a change in our daily life. Otherwise we would have piled those goals on a growing shelf already.
Ask the why question. ”I want to earn tons of money!” – ”Why?” ”Because I want to buy X and Y,” – ”Why?”. ”Because I want to..,” and so on. Eventually with every goal, and with every why-question, we tend to end up at a certain feeling. This do not only help us point out a true goal, it may even change our goals when we realize that all we want is a sensation of happiness. Regardless, it develops a road to our goal and we see and feel a sensation towards our goal instead of just a written line that is supposed to make us magically be motivated. Instead, these feelings can help us to remain being motivated, or rather using my favorite word; ”Disciplined,” when we are not in the right mood.
Because there may be a moment we cross, when we think ”Nah, I do not need ten grand, and I might as well just cross that line to go on for the next one.” But suddenly, we do remember that we wrote that goal because we wanted to prepare our parent’s home, because they need it. And we will feel genuine happiness when being able to help them out. Suddenly that goal will stay important and we will put an extra effort, again, to reach it.
5. Be Specific
There is a great difference between having an unspecific goal versus a specific one. Example can be: being more active versus always taking the stairs. One is concrete and the other one is a bit loose. This will dissolve when we come to those situations where we can choose either the elevator or the stairs. If we specifically have said to always choose the stairs, we will choose the stairs and as result be more active. If we had not defined it, chances are that we may never have thought about taking the stairs during that moment. Just to clarify a simple daily thing that can be chosen in different ways.
6. Unrealistic Goals
I have noticed many people urging others to never aim for ”unrealistic goals”. Hmm… is there really any unrealistic goals? I firmly believe the impossible is possible, yes – quoting Selena. But really, with the mindset that there would be unrealistic goals, it would mean that we are overly limited. If we budge those so-called limitations, there is a whole new world to explore. I suggest us to remove that mindset and instead believe everything is possible. Because everything IS possible!
How I cope with ”greater” goals (yes, that is a much better word), is that I tend to give them a bit of more time. Claiming that I shall be the president next year would of course be a possibility, but I rather lessen the pressure on me so I would rather set in within a 20 year old span of time. Instead focus on attractive attributes for that role within perhaps a shorter amount of time. Like picking a piece of that long term goal and set that one for year 2019.
This is also the reason why I have chosen not to bring up the S M A R T model here. It talks a lot of realistic goals and I just want to remove that mindset completely.
Law of attraction, which I personally believe in. At least it has worked with me when I really have put an effort into it. Visualizing what we dream of as if we already have it. We will behave like we have accomplished this and there are many informations about how this thing works. Like a mindset being ”Magical” and we attract what we focus on. Which I also think scientifically can be a truth.
At least, this puts me in a very happy mood and as result, usually helps me achieve whatever I have put my mind to. I believe in the saying that ”I will.” Not ”I would like to,” or ”I might,” but ”I WILL!”
I have tried to bring out different tips and tricks in how we can grow as persons when it comes to goal setting. To sum it up, my personal opinion is that twisting goals into habits is what is required to have a working plan. 2019 has begun and I believe that we together can go through this.